S(econd) L(ife) ash tray

There are many ways to attract customers in a mall and boost your turnover, for example you launch a contest and oblige people to buy your products if they want to participate.

SLASH is currently running such contest for the sexiest avatar.

In their mall you can see a large wall where contestants post their photos with Slash Outfits, there is even some photostudios in the place for free usage.

overview from outside
one of the photostudios

I first tried to enter the contest with an old pic that I took at Bear Infohub and that I love much, but it was removed one day after, which proves that they are checking the outfits.

my preferred
Therefore I had no choice but buy something in the mall to be able to participate.

I pitched on a bath suit not too expensive (some L250 if I remember correctly) and took a photo with my own photostudio.

used for the contest
obviously the best one
in the top 50

You are totally free not to vote for me.

Contest rules (excerpts)

SLASH! Contest instructions:

Voting:
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1. You can vote once a day
2. Vote for the nicest picture you see, do not vote for your friend, it is not a popularity contest but a beauty contest !
3. Voting for the nicest picture INCREASES your chance of winning the voter's prize. Voting for your friend decreases your chance !
4. Click on the picture you want to vote for.
5. Wait for a blue menu to appear, verify the text on the blue menu and click Yes if it is correct, No if it is not correct
6. Vote again if you clicked No in the previous step

Remarks:
* You are only allowed to add 1 photo to this contest
You will get this message if you try to enter a second photo to the contest. That is not allowed.
* This photo has already been added to this contest
Every picture has to be unique.

CONTEST RULES

These are non-negotiable rules of the contest, if you enter, it is on the strict understanding that you agree to them. We tried hard to make it as fair as possible for every HONEST contestant. We are sorry that we`ve been forced to tighten the contest rules in comparison with the 1st contest but it seems there is no other way to keep it fair for the majority of honest contestants and to avoid a popularity contest.

1. Contest Theme: Sexiest Avatar

1a. Voting system - Ben will give more detailed voting and technical information in a seperate message/notecard.

You can join the contest in the lobby of the SLASH! sim when it's opened. Many things will stay the same as the first contest, like voting via clicking on the pictures and the contest HUD etc.

In short, the voting system will be as follows:
- Every voter has one vote per day.
- Contestants can't vote for their own pictures.
- A panel of 8 judges will pick the 3 winners from the 50 contestants with highest number of votes.

1b. Prizes: 1st Place: L$50,000, 2nd Place: L$10,000, 3rd Place: L$10,000, Prize for the 2 VOTERS who match closest to the final winning girls win L$10,000 each! The panel of judges will choose a winner from last 100 joining the contest, to win L$10,000. Prizes in total: L$100.000.

2. Photos must show an Avatar wearing a Slash Outfit - NO face only shots please. The picture needs to show at least your face and torso. You can use the photostudios in the Lobby for free. Photoshopped backgrounds are ok, photoshopped avi's are not.

3. Any contestant found to be spamming, begging for votes from the SLASH! group/the people on the SLASH! sims, paying people to vote will be elimiated immediately with absolutely no discussion. The same for any other cheating to grab votes in a unfair way. This is a contest for the sexiest avatar - NOT a popularity contest!!

3a. Please respect the privacy and freedom of other users - using the group channel for any blabla, shouting around on the sim will exclude you from the contest. Nobody wants the chaos we had on some occasions in the 1st contest. Zero tolerance in this point and with any cheating behaviour! NO previous warnings, NO discussions! We will add a script soon that kicks EVERY writer in groupchannel automatically out.

4. Spending multiple hours at the contest wall will be eliminated by an automated script which will evict your avi after 2 hours.

5. The contest will end on midnight SL time on Friday 14th March. This will be followed by a prize-giving event on Sunday 16th March at 2pm SL time (11pm CET). If you are a winner and are unable to attend the prize-giving event for any reason whatsoever, your prize will move to the next person on the list and you LOSE your prize - absolutely no discussions about that too.

6. If successful in winning a prize, you will be required to be at the prize-giving event venue for rehearsals at least one hour before the event start.

7. You will be required to wear a SLASH! costume that we supply at the event and to be available for publicity photos.

8. Rules may change without further notice when unexpected things happens.

Contest Manager: Sudidi Surya
Technical Manager: Ben Turas
In charge for this contest: Dig Dollinger

When you are in any contest you should work as if there were - to the very last minute - a chance to lose it.
Dwight D. Eisenhower
34th president of US 1953-1961 (1890 - 1969)

Confessions of a Loving Domme

I am a Domme, that is I have a relationship with a (lovely) submissive woman where, within negotiated limits, she is under my control. Often denoted as a D/s relationship (D for dominant, s for submissive). This relationship suits both of us - meeting emotional and sexual needs of each. I get: a huge emotional charge of erotic feelings and creative energy, as well as receiving heaps of love, service and devotion - she gets: a lot of care and attention; excitement; a "letting-go" that comes of not having to decide anything; and *intense* sexual/endorphin highs. These emotions are extensions of common emotions experienced with sex and love - when in love one can often feel waves of submissiveness, wanting to do ridiculous things to prove/show ones devotion - similarly one can be hit with impulses to posses and control the person you desire. D/s is simply when these sorts of emotion are long-standing and openly expressed.

Many D/s relationships (but not all) involve fetish elements, that is involving some aspects like: pain; humiliation, control, bondage, exhibitionism, sexually explicit clothing, rules as well as fantasy recreations of such as: imprisonment, abduction, and forced sex. These elements are generally what is indicated by the initials BDSM - but this is another broad, catch-all phrase. This is due to the fact both D/s and BDSM are associated with a related series of human responses and emotions, and that to do BDSM role play involves control. However I think it is also due to the fact that a D/s structure to a relationship facilitates the exploration of taboo areas - it provides a framework and an emotional license. The D partner is freed from normal constraints of what is socially acceptable as a result of being in command, and the s partner is free to experience taboo sensations without feeling guilty about it. It is almost universal for there to be implicit or explicit negotiation about what sort of things the s wants to be "forced" to do.

So although D/s and BDSM are closely associated they are not necessarily connected. There are D/s relationships that do not involve any fetish elements at all, indeed some that do not involve sexual aspects at all. Likewise there are people who use BDSM in their sex or role play without there being any spill over into their day-to-day relationship - they are as assertive in the workplace or with their children as anyone, but submissive in the bedroom (or the reverse). In fact the later (occasionally BDSM play) is far more common in RL than a longer-term D/s structured relationship. In SL the situation is a little bit different since people come to SL to play (in this sense). Thus within SL there are many who enter a longer-term D/s relationship in order to experience BDSM, because for them SL is all play. There are others for whom SL is a part of their "serious" life in some sense - they don’t play but live SL - for them they may choose to have occasional role-play sessions within SL, either with casual partners or within distinct "scenes" with longer-term partners. There are a few, like me, who both live SL and enter a longer-term D/s relationship - this involves a considerable emotional and time commitment, not to mention a responsibility to the safety of their partner(s). There are even a few people who are in long-term ("lifestyle") D/s relationships in RL, but come into SL to explore further!

Yes we are playing with some dark emotions here! Our interaction includes things that are totally taboo in normal life - that would be simply wrong if it were not for the fact that we *both* enjoy it and it is fundamentally consensual (that is either of us could just stop at any time and we are not forced into this by economic or other circumstances). It is also not without psychological dangers - this is very like an "extreme sport", you get the adrenaline rush and excitement but you also need good preparation and safeguards. It is for this reason that some generally agreed norms and procedures have been developed to allow for the exploration of these kinds of experiences at the same time as keeping everybody from serious harm. The three main principles have been given the acronym: SSC: Safe, Sane and Consensual - these are overriding principles, that should be taken above any other considerations (such as fun or desire). Any practice should be safe - that is not cause any permanent and/or serious injury to the body of any participant; it should protect sanity - that is not be injurious to the mental health of any participant and it should be fundamentally consensual.

The last of the above three is a little tricky to implement since in play "no don't spank me" might actually really mean "please spank me"! There are several main ways to get around this problem and ensure consent is really and currently given. The first of these is the use of a formal agreement about the limits of control and the kinds of things that the s wants/is willing/is unwilling to experience. There is a common and intimidating list of BDSM practices which some Dommes get their subs to fill in before they start playing/interacting seriously, but it is more common for people to just negotiate in rough terms these likes/dislikes/limitations. The second is the use of a safeword - this is a special word (not "no" or "stop" for obvious reasons) that can be used by either s or D to cause a cease to all activities and initiate communication between partners. This gives a safe guard to both the s (they can stop play if it goes too far) but also to the D partner who can have some reassurance that the sub begging for release before them is actually enjoying it and not really wanting release. Special extensions of this are needed when gags etc are used, but in SL the use of private IM between D and s is an ideal channel for this sort of message and negotiation. The third mechanism is that of an off-line communication medium whereby partner can honestly communicate how they felt about what went on, via a journal accessible to the other, or in the case of SL emails.

"OK, OK so what do D/s people actually do, sexually speaking?" is the obvious question. Well I can't tell you in general, any more than I could tell you what people do together in any other intimate way. I have talked to people, read what people have written, but really I can only talk authoritatively about my own experience. What I do may well not be representative of what others do! I am not aware of any surveys similar to those of normal (sometimes called "vanilla" by D/s folk) sexual behavior. Just like any loving/sexual behavior it is very personal and intimate - depending more than anything on the person you are with, not the actions you take. So I am afraid if you are reading this for intimate details, you are going to be disappointed - retelling what I have done without the loving context it is done in would be simply misleading. Compare the case to trying to understand sex for the first time and only having a dry telling of its mechanics.

For most of my time in SL my sexual relationships have been entirely non-BDSM, that is straight forward lesbian love affairs. I am extremely sensitive to my partner's wishes - there is nothing that gives me deeper pleasure than loving the whole person I care about, including their sexuality. There is a deep joy to be had in satisfying ones partner's sexual fantasies/needs far more than they had ever expected. Loving people like this can make them feel whole - at last they can be loved for who they are as a complete person, including any sexuality that they had previously "boxed-up" in their head as socially unacceptable. Thus I have done some things that might be considered more extreme for the people I care about in SL, including being their sub (which I loved), letting them suck my blood, make love in a closed coffin, and pulling them through public places naked and chained. There are only three rules when it comes to sex: don't harm people, respect and care for your partner, and (if you able) try to satisfy your partner's needs. If an action gives pleasure (especially mutual pleasure), then it can be used to convey love and care. BDSM can be very much a way of both caring and "making love".

Like other sex this can be used for good or ill. There are some selfish, nasty or simply sick people out there being Dommes (or subs) and causing emotional distress to others or themselves - but this is the same as with other relationships. One needs to choose one's partners with care - one does not have sex with anyone (if you are wise) - this is doubly true with D/s or BDSM. Taking time to get to know someone before committing is always a good idea - and if the person is not willing to do this, to put in time and energy developing a deeper relationship then this tells you a lot about that person - D/s is not different in these fundermentals than any other relationship, but based on fundermental respect, care and communication.

I do not pretend that I am acting altruistically in this - I do enjoy domination - otherwise I could not do it well. You can no more pretend to be a Domme or a sub that you can pretend to be a lesbian - it is something that is built into you or not (at least by the time you are an adult). However, because my sexuality is intimately bound up with loving and caring, I can only enjoy it if my partner is as well (just like any sex). I presently have both a normal lover in SL and a devoted sub. I am committed to both these relationships, to caring and loving them in their different ways, although if my lover asked me to, I would drop the D/s relationship because my love for her is paramount.

I get great pleasure and joy from caring for and dominating my sub and she gets great pleasure for being cared for and submitting to me. It suits us both. It is a vehicle for our care and love (respectively). It is good. If you want to know whether you have any similar feelings in you, try this simple thing with your partner - try dancing somewhere romantic (an intimate salsa, tango or slow dance is best) but where one of you is handcuffed (the dominatech cuffs available at slexchange.com or Venus (224, 242, 28) are simplest and most effect here because they work well with dance animations) - see how you feel. I have yet to find anyone who does not find it deeply erotic - it is definitely one of my favorites!

San Mauvaise

Resources

If you are genuinely interested in this, I suggest you DO NOT type BDSM into Google and keep your eyes open! That will get you lots of images designed to titillate male fantasy but will not help you understand real D/s and BDSM sexuality. Imagine trying to understand sex by just looking at pornography - it is the same with BDSM.

There are two good books about BDSM, called "The New Topping Book" and "The New Bottoming Book" by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy that go into this in detail. They are mostly concerned with RL and have only one chapter on using the internet and longer-term D/s relationships but still are marked out as being insightful, sensible and humane. (available at amazon, e.g. http://www.amazon.com/New-Topping-Book-Dossie-Easton/dp/ and http://www.amazon.com/New-Bottoming-Book-Janet-Hardy/dp/ similar bookshops).

I am not going to show pictures of people involved in D/s or BDSM here, for fear of attracting merely prurient interest. However you can find picks from SL on flickr using this search (or similar): http://www.flickr.com/search/?q=secondlife+bdsm

If you think the above is (as Freud characterized it) simply pathological, I suggest you read an article called "Psychology And BDSM: Pathology Or Individual Difference?" at http://ipgcounseling.com/psychology_and_bdsm.html

If you feel this is a part of you (either D or s or both), then I suggest you gradually experiment with someone you love and trust - talking about your experiences together. There are various places in SL that claim to teach D/s and BDSM, but I cannot say that I recommend them since they can only really deal with the mechanics and not the emotional component (which is, after all, the point) - they tend to reinforce stereotypes rather than promote good D/s relationships.

Inside the Maze of Eroticism

My friend Cindy is a great entrepreneur, always busy, she loves erecting amuzement resorts and shopping centers.

One day she told me she was creating a labyrinthe for lovers that would surprise more than a couple of bored men.

And you know how men can easily be bored...

And sometimes boring...

So after returning from my business trip in Switzerland, coming from this cold and rainy place conduced me to the idea of visiting a warmer space.

And here I am, gazing at the entrance of the Erotic Sculpture.

Approaching the threshold I can see some trace of moisture on the walls.

I am very well welcome and feel suddenly much better.

The door is narrow but the inner walls are soft and I can enter without difficulty.

Inside it is strange, many, many lips are kissing my feet.

A steamy breeze is exhaling from all these reddish mouths.

I am not alone...

As I do not want to disturb, I go to the next room.

I wanted a warm place, I am not deceived.

It is not warm, it is rather pretty hot here, and I feel drops of sweat running along my cheeks.

Balls are on the floor, maybe waiting for a kick?

Looks kinda stadium or football pitch.

Funny devices are scattered across the place.

I am curious and can't help trying one.

Not very comfortable indeed...

I guess the game is to catch the blue ball with the teeth, I will try another day.

Another appliance looks like a scanner.

Am I in a medical center?

Where is the doctor? I want a doctor!

At last something that takes me back to my childhood.

I always loved swings, they rock!

And I love rocking and rolling in the air.

I can even practise rings.









I didn't know I was so good at gymnastics.

I also play bowling on my knees.

There are no skittles, I assume that they have not yet arrived.

Perhaps a problem in the supply chain...?

I try to find more balls.

On all fours it's better to catch them.

Something is burning my ass.

This place is really hot and balls are stinging my hands.

I look back and I am startled, it is a wild fire that was cooking my butts.

Now I want the fireman, I don't think the doctor could help here.

Blue balls are lurking around me, I would like them to spit their water to freshen me up a little.

Again four-footed I keep on searching my blue balls.





The more I find, the greatest the score I guess.

The game can also be played in the air.

Levitation has always been a dream that comes now to reality.

Some pink balls are spread over the place to spice the match.

Now I am playing basket blue ball.

I can hear groaning every time the ball hits the floor.

Objets inanimés avez-vous donc une âme?

Tired of playing with these wailing balls I enter the next room.

How dreadful!

I see a mouse trotting on the floor!

A guttural scream escapes from my throat.

And now a spider creeping on the wall!

I can't bear these nasty bugs and I shriek with even greater intensity.

Well, when a mouse brushes my leg and a spider droops before my eyes, here is the result...

Finally I have called this place the screaming room.

But we can also find some tender moments with the invisible (wo?)man.

Sometimes I expect the ball to transform in something I could use in some way.

This pink ball is very tempting, but I am still waiting when I write these lines.

Next time I will come with my own balls, already transformed.

My lunch is still in my stomach, my belly is aching, I should drink an Aqua Seltzer.

When I exit the site to go to the drugstore, I can better see where I was.

It is a House of Worship.

There are columns and statues of Goddesses of Love.

Some nooks are difficult to describe.

You'd better come and see with your own eyes.

A sort of huge worm try to swallow me on my way out.

Yuk-yuk!

Second yuk-yuk in this blog, find the other one.

Before leaving definitely the place I admire the big streetlights hanging from the ceiling.

As it is daytime I cannot see them illuminating the lieu.

I recommend you this location where you can have some fun with your best friends.

The owner of the place is Chill3 Mills.

The creator of the decor and costumes is Talena Giha.

Good job Talena, one day I will have to pay you a visit at your shop in Digital Zion.

Just as treasures are uncovered from the earth, so virtue appears from good deeds, and wisdom appears from a pure and peaceful mind. To walk safely through the maze of human life, one needs the light of wisdom and the guidance of virtue.
Buddha, Indian philosopher & religious leader (563 BC-483 BC)

Little Pony in Second Life

In my previous post I promised you more sex, here you have real hard porn!

My little pony

Have children leave the room or shut their eyes and hears, because this movie is above anything naughty and dirty you will ever watch, even in Second Life.

Yes we are always in Second Life, our world, our imagination, images are images, they are not real life, and all that is not real life is second life.

Youth would be an ideal state if it came a little later in life.
Herbert Henry Asquith, British politician (1852 - 1928)

(Almost) sex in Second Life

These avatars are not very original, though they are funny.

Japaniaiseries (French wordplay that could be translated by Japanese silliness, but with less comical effect...)

Want to watch more sex...?

Sex Tips with Justine, so hot!!

Next time it will be even hotter, I promise you.

I'm too shy to express my sexual needs except over the phone to people I don't know.
Garry Shandling, US comedian & television actor (1949 - )

Sex in Second Life

I never had virtual sex before coming in Second Life.

I mean I never made virtual love, because having virtual sex in real life looks rather queer (can you watch yourself in a mirror and gaze at your virtual sex...?)

Funny experience indeed, but it has its limits.

At the beginning I went to places where crowds were fucking with strange devices, men wearing enormous and ridiculous penis...

Of course as a noob I indulged in some orgiastic manifestations, but I rapidly got fed up of this sort of unexciting activity.

I will post no link here to any place providing sex, but you can still try with the button Search, it will return you so many information about the topic that you will be spoilt for choice!

I will only quote Philip Rosedale, CEO and creator of Linden Lab :
"A lot of the sex relationships in Second Life are driven more by lengthy, meaningful discussions. People have sex in Second Life because they have incredibly deep relationships, not just because they want to have sex."

Nothing to add so far.

Life is a sexually transmitted disease.
R. D. Laing